Talk to Her – i.a

When you talk to her, talk to her
Like you want somebody to talk to you mama
Don’t get smart with her, have a heart to heart with her
Just like you would with your daughter

‘Cause everything you do or say
You gotta live with it everyday

She’s somebody’s baby
She’s somebody’s sista
She’s somebody’s mama

Now when you go to her, speak truthfully
Be honest as you can be, from your heart
You’re in a situation, where you’re losing patience
Take some time and look her in the eye

When you just can’t find the words you want
And it’s hard to reach the point

Where you both can understand
Don’t just tell the truth
Tell the whole truth
It’ll make a better man out of you

It doesn’t matter if she’s wearing
A mini skirt or a business suit
Whether she’s 25 or 99,
Treat her the way your mama taught you to

She could be the Queen of Sheba
She could be a school teacher{!}
Homemaker or a lawyer

Now let’s keep it real
Nothing in this world could ever exist
Without its opposite:
There has to be a sun and moon
A man and a woman
And that’s just the way it is

When you talk to her, talk to her
Like you want somebody to talk to your mama
Just like you fight for your sister
If you knew that somebody dissed her

How you gonna care for your daughter
Turn around and talk bad about her mama?
Same way you listen to your auntie
Never interrupt while she speaks

Make your words sweet like candy
As if you were talking to your granny

If you really loved then say so
If you really needed then say so
Love the way she thinks, say so
You love the way she speaks, say so
When you need some good conversation, say so
If you want her in your life, say so
You want her to be your wife, say so
Tell her she’s your best friend- say so
You’ll be there to the end- say so
If you’re thinking about leaving, say so
If you wonder where she’s going, say so
If you need to breathe with her, say so
You just want to be with her, say so
If you love her hair, SAY SO 🙂
If you want her there, say so
Tell her if you really wanted her- say so
If you feel like loving, say so

This song played (by india.arie) while I was studying and I had to stop to post it…I’m at a loss for words with this song.

Sudden Awareness – Short & Sweet

For a while now, I’ve been preparing myself for marriage. Sometimes it is all I think about and I get so excited at the thought! I think of sweet things to do for my future husband and how to decorate the house and what my wedding dress will look like and what songs will be played at the wedding… it’s a mess. But recently, I’ve realized that my priorities are so messed up. Beyond messed up. I am no one’s wife. And I won’t be until God says that the time is right. I need to focus on who I am and my walk with God. I need to focus on being the best daughter I can be before becoming the best wife I will one day be. I need to concentrate on God’s will for my life right now rather than being focused on what may or may not happen months and years in the future.

But it’s so easy for anyone to get distracted. I mean, marriage is the most exciting thing in the world to me. Nothing at all could be more of a blessing (other than to have a child or children, but that usually comes with marriage). So focusing on finding that person or “stumbling upon” him or her could effortlessly be an everyday thing: “Church tomorrow! Gotta look good… I may meet my husband at the altar.” “I need to do my hair before I go around the corner to the store… ‘You meet a man in an aisle and he’ll later walk you down one!'” “Girl, I need to get my feet done… Can’t meet my husband with last week’s nail polish!” I made those up… but I would not be surprised if they have been said before. 😛 But anyway, how can someone focus on the what seems to be boring ol’ right now when the oh so amazing future looks so much more exciting? I don’t know… it’s easier than it seems.