Tam Tam Shabam!

So my dad’s girlfriend is leaving tonight. 😦 My father is driving her back to Virginia. I’m going to miss Tam Tam! 😦

There is nothing like a house that becomes a home. She is so nice, so sweet, so caring, so loving, so welcoming, so thoughtful, and so Southern… haha. All my friends love her. People at my church even ask me when she and my father are getting married. I don’t know but I hope they do soon! Of course there are unspoken things that they have to take care of but I just love having her here. The house feels complete. There is actually a woman of the house, and it is not me! And I’m not happy because she cooks and cleans, but because she perfectly fills the role of the woman of the house. (Okay, I am a little happy that she does cook and clean, but that’s not the main reason!)

“A house is not a home” without two people–a man and a woman–running it, with Jesus at the center. I love it. I love her!

“Tam Tam Shabam,” by the way, is the nickname that randomly came to mind as I signed her birthday card the other day. Yepp. She’s 29!… Okay, she’s not really 29, but after a woman turns 29, I always call her 29. So I have no idea how old the woman is but Wednesday the 8th was her 29th birthday!

I’m going to miss Tam Tam Shabam! It is good to see, while she is here, a perfect example of what a woman should be. 🙂 Love her!

Feeling Down? A Little Bored? Here’s What To Do!

A wonderful list from me to you… that took a really long time so I hope you like it. 😀

– Pray to God

– Read your Bible

– Remember how BLESSED you are

– Eat a good meal

– Make and/or eat some homemade Rice Krispie Treats (with way too many marshmallows)

– Get a goodnight forehead kiss from your youngest sibling

– Hug someone

– Hug someone else!

– Be nice to someone

– Sponsor a child

– Start a conversation

– Buy a homeless person lunch

– Help out someone somewhere!

– Learn ‘The Cup Song!’

– Listen to country music!

– Yell, “Blake Shelton!” in a Southern accent just because!

– Have a staring contest

– Have a thumb war

– Play tug-of-war

– Play I Declare War

– Play Apples-To-Apples

– Play Heads Up!

– Play Seven Up!

– Play Taboo!

– Play Charades

– Play Monopoly and only get through half of the game because it takes forever to finish

– Play Hungry, Hungry Hippos

– Play Uno!

– Play Uno elimination and try to remain friends

– Tell a good joke

– Tell a bad joke

– Tell a joke that doesn’t make any sense

– Talk like Barack Obama!

– Make a triple-decker peanut butter and jelly sandwich!

– Make grilled cheese! (Because EVERYBODY loves grilled cheese)

– Go driving around and dance in your car!

– Learn how to play the guitar

– Air guitar!

– Pretend you know how to play the piano!

– Search snowflake photography!

– Freeze a sheet of velvet and catch snowflakes on it without them melting!

– Watch ‘Say Yes To The Dress’

– Watch ‘The Prince of Egypt’

– Watch ‘Pocahontas’

– Watch ‘Despicable Me’

– Watch ‘Despicable Me 2’

– Watch ‘Toy Story’

– Watch ‘Toy Story 2’

– Try to avoid ‘Toy Story 3’ (tears will be shed)

– Watch “Stuff Youth Pastors Say” on YouTube

– Watch “Stuff Christian Singles Hear” on YouTube

– Watch ‘Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood’ by yourself or with a small child!

– Have a ‘Mean Girls’ quote war!

– Learn a song in another language!

– Spend a night in a hotel just because!

– Go to the airport just because!

– Look at a picture of a baby

– Hold a baby

– Play with a baby

– Have a baby (if you know what I mean 😉 but only if you’re married!)

– Get married!

– Propose!

– Stay together forever!

– Do the twist!

– Do the mashed potato!

– Do the boogaloo!

– Do the swim!

– Do the bird!

– Do the duck!

– Do the monkey!

– Do the Madison Time!

– Do the Hokey Pokey!

– Play the hand game from ‘The Color Purple!’

– Act like Sophia from ‘The Color Purple!’

– Watch ‘The Color Purple’

– Watch ‘The Blues Brothers!’

– Watch ‘Ferris Bueler’s Day Off’

– Go out for Mexican food because it is ALWAYS a good time for Mexican food!

– Wear a sombrero!

– Wear a cowboy hat!

– Wear a Cat in the Hat hat!

– Play dress up

– Put on old costumes

– Be a cheerleader!

– Watch a sports game and act like you know what’s going on!

– Sing a song you don’t know!

– Rewrite the words to a song!

– Rap really hardcore about something really heartfelt!

– Pretend to be a gangster!

– Play Ad Lib!

– Go sight-seeing

– Go to a place you’ve been to a million times and pretend you’re sight-seeing

– Get lost with someone you’d love to get lost with 😉

– See a Broadway musical!

– Stalk your best friend(s) on social media!

– Read your favorite book!

– Read your favorite childhood book!

– Read The Jungle Book!

– Figure out the proper ways to use italics, underlines, and quotation marks!

– Go to a store just to try on clothes

– Thank a janitor

– Thank a bus driver

– Thank a police officer

– Thank a security guard

– Thank a nurse

– Thank a school nurse

– Thank a pastor

– Thank your pastor

– Thank your deacon(s)

– Thank an elder

– Thank your parent(s)

– Thank your teacher(s)

– Yell, “IT’S OPTIMUS PRIME!” every time you see a 16-wheeler

– Play that old game you used to play on the bus to try to get a truck driver to blow the horn

– Dance to Kung Fu Fighting, or whatever that song is called

– Dance to Cell Block Tango from ‘Chicago!’

– Dance to Party All The Time by Eddie Murphy and Rick James!

– Dance to Rico Suave by Gerardo!

– Dance to Sweet Caroline (So good! So good! So good!) by Neil Diamond

– Dance to Livin’ On A Prayer by Bon Jovi

– Dance to Respect by Aretha Franklin

– Dance to Hound Dog by Elvis

– Dance to Tequila by The Champs

– Dance to Girls Just Wanna Have Fun by Cyndi Lauper

– Dance to This Is How We Do It by Montell Jordan

– Dance to The Twist by Chubby Checker

– Dance to Let’s Twist Again by Chubby Checker

– Dance to Isn’t She Lovely? by Stevie Wonder

– Dance to Sir Duke by Stevie Wonder

– Dance to I Wish by Stevie Wonder

– Sing like Michael Bolton

– Have family time

– Create a new outfit with old clothes!

– Go somewhere fancy!

– Get your hair done

– Do your own hair

– Curl your hair

– Straighten your hair

– Braid your hair

– Twist your hair

– CRIMP YOUR HAIR

– Go shopping!

– Eat ice cream

– Make ice cream

– Take someone out for ice cream

– Eat straight up whipped cream from the bottle

– Eat some Reese’s (or any other form of chocolate)

– Bake cookies

– Skip the baking and eat the cookie dough (not too much… eggs, you know)

– Go apple picking and eat all the apples while you’re picking so you get them for free!

– Eat a cube (or whatever shape it is) of ice dipped in baking soda (my brother and I did this all the time when we were younger and it is good)

– Walk through the food court of the mall and get all the free samples you can get!

– Go on a virtual tour of a college or university online!

– Listen to Delilah on the radio

– Listen to ‘Schoolhouse Rock!’

– Watch ‘Happy Feet’

– Watch ‘Shark Tale’

– Watch ‘Finding Nemo’

– Watch ‘The Lion King’

– Watch ‘The Lion King 1 1/2’

– Watch ‘Shrek the Musical’

– Watch ‘The Brady Bunch Movie’

– Watch ‘Bring It On’

– Watch something with Will Ferrell

– Watch something with Adam Sandler

– Watch something with Rebel Wilson

– Watch something with Melissa McCarthy

– Watch ‘The Avengers’ then go save the world!

– Watch ‘Lilo & Stitch’

– Watch ‘Lilo & Stitch’ and act like you know how to hula dance!

– If you know how to, hula dance!

– Hula hoop!

– Challenge someone to a hula hoop contest!

– Get a massage!

– Give a massage!

– Have a girls’ night

– Have a girls’ day

– Have a bros’ night

– Have a dudes’ day

– Make a Pinterest and just get lost!

– Watch “Tom Brady’s Wicked Accent” on YouTube!

– Watch “Messy Mondays: How to Write a Worship Song (In 10 Minutes or Less)” on YouTube

– Watch “Angles Music Video by Peter Weatherall” on YouTube! (it was for a project… but it’s so funny)

– Watch “Harvard Tours Yale: The Game 2013” on YouTube! (FUNNIEST. PRANK. EVER.)

– Watch anything by Jefferson Bethke on YouTube

– Watch “People with no kids don’t know” on YouTube

– Watch “David After Dentist” on YouTube

– Watch the Spanish version of the VeggieTales theme song on YouTube

– Get lost on Just For Laughs Gags channel on YouTube

– Laugh your head off on Convos With My 2-year-old channel on YouTube

– Watch videos of the Ragtime Original Broadway Cast on YouTube

– Watch marriage proposals on YouTube!

– Watch flash mobs on YouTube!

– Watch Christian comedy!

– Watch all the dance numbers from ‘West Side Story!’

– Watch ‘Rugrats’

– Watch ‘Whose Line Is It Anyway?’

– Laugh at Wayne Brady’s old 90’s hairstyles while watching ‘Whose Line Is It Anyway?’

– Play a game from ‘Whose Line Is It Anyway?’

– Watch Tim Hawkins on YouTube!

– Go to Cracker Barrel!

– Test drive a car!

– Go to a car show

– Pretend you’re driving a car and make all the noises!

– Stick your hand out and pretend to be Thor!

– Make a movie!

– Make an Instagram

– Have a flashback to the 90s! (or whenever your childhood was)

– Play with dolls! (Well… maybe not this one so much.)

– Learn all the moves to One Billion Rising’s, Break The Chain!

– Go all day speaking in an accent!

– Skip!

– Buy a beanbag chair!

– Sponsor a child!

– Go to Panera!

– Make your bed!

– Learn Pig Latin

– Learn Latin

– Have a snowball fight!

– Build a snowman!

– Build a snowwoman!

– Build a snowdog!

– Build a snowhotdog!

– Build a snow family!

– Build a snow Eiffel Tower!

– Watch someone build something in the snow!

– Take a ferry somewhere!

– Take a train somewhere!

– Take a bus somewhere!

– Eat a huge slice of cake while saying, “NO REGRETS” before and after each bite

– Do your best Popeye impersonation!

– Snapchat with a friend!

– Snapchat with your best friend!

– Make a Snapchat!

– EAT/DRINK/BATHE IN CHOCOLATE

– Go to a wedding!

– Crash a party and be sure not to be thrown out or arrested!

– Skip rocks!

– Make up a dance!

– Go running through the woods yelling, “PEETA!!!!!!!!!”

– Make a paper mache volcano!

– Skip the volcano and just combine baking soda and vinegar and watch it explode!

– Watch ‘Zoom’ and do one of their experiments!

– Pretend you’re on ‘Zoom’ and make up a dumb experiment! (like “How To Make A Grill…” for your teeth, that is)

– #Type #using #as #many #hashtags #as #you #can (#nofilter)

– Talk using text talk! (e.g. lol, jk, rotfl)

– Wash your hair

– Tell someone about Jesus!

– Take a hot bath with a colored fizzy bomb

– Watch ‘Drake & Josh’

– Look at old family photos

– Reminisce on old memories

– Watch old videos

– Edit your Facebook

– Edit your LinkedIn

– Update your résumé

– Apply for a job for no reason!

– Sing Chapel of Love by Dixie Cups

– Sing Wouldn’t It Be Nice by the Beach Boys!

– Sing Lean On Me by Bill Withers

– Sing the Club Noveau version of Lean On Me (“We be jammin’! We be jammin’!”)

– Pretend you’re Jamaican!

– Don’t pretend you’re Jamaican in public!

– Practice your Spanish!

– Eat some more chocolate!

– Talk to an old friend

– Clean your room

– Get sugared up and cause trouble!

– Go to New York and take pictures with all the peculiar people!

– Go to New York and yell, “Hey, eff you, buddy!” to absolutely no one while crossing the street!

– Go to New York and take a gypsy cab! (They’re the fancy black ones!)

– Go for a hike

– Photoshop a picture to make it seem like you met a celebrity!

– Watch ‘VeggieTales’

– Watch ‘America’s Funniest Home Videos’

– Watch ‘Everybody Hates Chris’

– Say to someone, “I don’t need this MESS! My man has two jobs!”

– Give yourself/get a facial

– Invite your friends over

– Take a picture of someone sleeping and send it to them later!

– Go for a jog

– Go for a run

– Play Just Dance!

– Go sledding down a hill of snow on lunch trays you forgot to return to the cafeteria

– Visit your old school

– Visit your old job (…if you dare)

– Throw a party

– Blow up balloons

– Watch ‘Fat Albert & The Cosby Kids’

– Watch ‘Fat Ablert’

– Watch ‘All That!’

– Watch “Know Your Stars” from ‘All That!’ on YouTube

– Watch ‘Kenan & Kel’

– Watch ‘The Amanda Show’

– Watch ‘Good Burger’ because it is now on Netflix!

– Send someone flowers

– Send yourself flowers

– Make funny faces in the mirror

– Make ugly faces in the mirror

– Watch the last inning of the Red Sox Mother’s Day Miracle

– Root for the Red Sox

– Boo the Yankees

– Give your best Southern accent

– Give your best SOUTHERN accent

– Give your best Massachusetts accent

– Give your best New York accent

– Give your best New Jersey accent

– Give your best Connecticut accent… LOL JK.

– Wrestle!

– Kiss your spouse

– Make a cake

– Make cupcakes

– Make a super duper deluxe ultra mega cake

– Tell someone, “Happy birthday!” even if it isn’t their birthday

– Yell at the top of your lungs, “GOD IS WITH US!”

– Yell at the top of your lungs while about to do something, “FOR ISRAEL!”

– Talk to a plant

– Talk to your dad

– Talk to your mom

– Talk to your dog

– Talk to your cat

– Talk to your iguana

– Talk to your parrot (but don’t say anything crazy!)

– Watch videos of Anjelah Johnson

– Walk around handing out Charms Lollipops and/or Tootsie Roll Pops!

– Dance all around by yourself

– Dance all around with someone else

– Dance really quickly to a slow song

– Dance really slowly to a fast song

– Find a playlist of the best Disney songs and sing along

– Watch Thomas Sanders’ vines!

– Watch David Lopez’s vines!

– Watch Comedian Chris’ vines!

– Watch Rudy Mancuso’s vines!

– Watch BatDad’s vines!

– Watch NigaHiga on Youtube!

– Eat some more chocolate!

– Ride your bike!

– Go knock over a BJ’s… bag of fruit snacks

– Eat some fruit snacks!

– Laugh for no reason whatsoever!

– Use the bathroom with the door open!

– While someone is walking behind you, pretend you’re in a horror movie and that the person is chasing you, then fall on the ground and scream!

– Watch ‘Daddy Daycare’

– Watch ’50 First Dates’

– Watch ‘What To Expect When You’re Expecting’ OVER AND OVER AGAIN

– DO NOT WATCH ‘THE BOY IN THE STRIPED PAJAMAS’ FOR THE LOVE OF PETE, WHOEVER PETE IS, DO NOT DO IT

– Go to the beach

– Go to the park

– Go to your driveway

– Dance in the rain

– Dance in the snow

– Dance in the sun

– Stay inside if it’s hailing

– Watch a thunderstorm

– BUILD A FORT

– Text a random number telling them to have a great day!

– That last one was actually a really good idea so you should definitely do that

– Sing Seasons of Love from ‘RENT!’

– Sing Don’t Stop Believing by Journey!

– Tell a girl that she is beautiful!

– Tell a guy that he is super masculine!

– Hug a teddy bear!

– Watch “Beware the Teddy Bear” on YouTube! (Seriously, it’s hilarious)

– Watch ‘The Cosby Show’

– Watch ‘The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air’

– Sing the theme song to ‘The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air’

– Sing the theme song to ‘The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air’ in public and wait for other people to sing along

– Do the Carlton

– Watch “Coca Cola Life – Ser Padres HD” on YouTube! (Seriously, it is the greatest thing on the Internet)

– Jump on your bed!

– Jump on someone else’s bed!

– Tell someone you love them!

– Go back for more chocolate!

– Blow someone a kiss!

– Look through your old yearbook(s)

– Try on crazy clothes!

– Workout

– Pretend to workout

– Attempt to workout with a friend but end up just taking pictures

– Eat some grapes

– Eat some strawberries

– Write a song about strawberries

– Watch Ben Phillips’ vines!

– Snuggle!

– Hug a small child!

– Take pictures in a photo booth!

– Take silly pictures in a photo booth!

– Take silly pictures ON Photo Booth if you have a Mac!

– Find someone’s Mac and take silly pictures on their Photo Booth!

– Leave crazy pictures on someone’s iPhone/iPod/iPad/iDon’tEvenKnow

– Drink some water

– Drink sparkling cider from fancy glasses

– Drink sparkling cider from the bottle

– Make lemonade while singing

– Watch ‘Doug’

– Watch ‘Hey Arnold!’

– Sing and dance to the ‘Hey Arnold!’ theme song!

– Sing and dance to all the songs from ‘Blues Clues’

– Sing and dance to all the songs from ‘Dora the Explorer’

– Sing and dance to all the songs from ‘Go, Diego, Go!’

– Do the Harlem Shake

– Do the REAL Harlem Shake

– Take down that Christmas tree!

– Wrap yourself, a friend, a sibling, a parent, whoever in Christmas lights and sing a song!

– Pretend you’re on one of those old Disney Channel commercials! (“Hi! I’m Jermane from That’s So Jermane and you’re watching Disney Channel!” *makes the top of Mickey’s head with wand* *smile* *pose*)

– Pretend you’re on American Idol

– Pretend you have a British accent, ya bloke!

– Find out what a “bloke” is!

– SMILE 😀

– Have a water balloon fight

– Play Don’t Let the Balloon Touch the Ground!

– Don’t say, “YOLO”

– Don’t say, “Turn up”

– Watch ‘Shrek’

– Skip to the end of ‘Shrek’ and dance to the music! (Do you see what I did there?)

– Eat a brownie!

– Make some brownies!

– Call Ghirardelli and tell them how AMAZING they are!

– Eat even MORE chocolate

– Watch ‘Hercules’ and sing along!

– Find an 11 year-old girl and do WHATEVER SHE WANTS TO DO (which will probably make her more happy than you but hey…)

– Make a crazy video

– Take a pretty picture

– Take a crazy picture

– Take an ugly picture and send it to your sibling and/or best friend!

– Make up your own language

– Babysit!

– Babysit for free!

– Babysit in exchange for a free haircut like I did 🙂

– Put on something red

– Tell someone they’re AMAZING!

– Hold hands with someone!

– Wash your hands!

– Take a shower

– Do your nails, ladies

– Trim your beard, guys… and maybe ladies, I don’t know

– Grow a Mario mustache

– PLAY MARIO KART

– Find that old GameBoy

– Find that old Nintendo

– Find that old GameCube (my favorite)

– Find that old Tamagotchi and clean up alllll its poop

– Find that old Furby

– Throw away that old Furby

– Visit a chocolate factory!

– Try something new in bed with your spouse tonight (bow chicka wow wow) 😉

– Make breakfast, lunch, and dinner for your spouse!

– Make breakfast, lunch, and dinner for your spouse while wearing an apron!

– Make breakfast, lunch, and dinner for your spouse while wearing a chef’s hat!

– Make breakfast, lunch, and dinner with your spouse while acting like the chef from ‘The Muppets!’

– Watch ‘The Muppets!’

– Pray with your significant other

– Pray for your significant other

– Read the Bible with your significant other

– Dance with your significant other

– Take pictures with your significant other

– Kiss your significant other

– Love the bananas out of your significant other

– Leave love notes and cute videos for your significant other

– Make up a top secret super cool members only totally rad and awesome crazy mad powers handshake with your significant other

– Start a Bible study!

– Join a Bible study!

– Find out what your name means

– Google your name

– Create a blog!

– Create a vlog!

– Sing in the mirror!

– Dance in the mirror!

– Sing AND dance in the mirror!

– Create a new challenge where you eat a pack of Kool-Aid! (that stuff is POTENT)

– Make a dry ice bomb! (with adult supervision)

– Brush your teeth

– Make someone’s day!

– Give yourself a pedicure

– Make a homemade facial scrub with strawberries and sugar!

– Make a homemade deep conditioner with honey, grapeseed oil, coconut milk, an egg, and Greek yogurt

– Make a homemade foot… helping… thingy…

– Light a candle

– Buy fake candles

– Turn on some oldies

– Blast Marvin Gaye’s Ain’t No Mountain High Enough and just go from there!

– Go back for more chocolate!

Whatever you do today, tonight, tomorrow, next Thursday, do something that makes you HAPPY. Sitting around moping all day does nothing for you, your immune system, your hair, your friends, your family, your pet, your chocolate obsession, nadie y nada! Sonríe! Smile!

The Corner Of An Attic

“It is better to live alone in the corner of an attic

than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.” Proverbs 25:24, NLT

So ladies, don’t be a criticizing, nosey, always-over-your-husband’s-shoulder, untrusting, jealous, “who-is-that-girl,” “how-come-you-don’t-take-me-out-anymore” complaint using to get what you want, “you-didn’t-notice-that-I-parted-my-hair-on-the-opposite-side-today” hassling, [Samson-and-] Delilah-type nagging, cantankerous, childish, “you-were-supposed-to-be-home-twenty-two-minutes-ago-because-it-only-takes-you-five-minutes-to-walk-from-your-desk-to-the-car-then-seventeen-minutes-from-work-to-home-so-who-are-you-cheating-on-me-with” accusing, get mad all the time, spending all of your husband’s money, always doing things without speaking with him first, Job’s wife, triflin’, walking around half-naked and showing your man’s goods, telling your husband that you are the best thing that has ever happened to him… kind of wife.

Something Great

I can’t stand living in this house sometimes. Ever since my mother left, there has been SO much put on me. People have even said that I am no one’s wife and no one’s mother so they agree that all the work I have to do and all the responsibilities I have just are not fair. (Had to point that out so you don’t think I’m just complaining. ;)) Don’t get me wrong, I know that slack has to be picked up- the woman of the house left for crying out loud. But I have four sisters and three that live with me (the other has an apartment). I also have a brother, btw, but he does man-stuff. But anyway, I have three younger sisters that do not have a FRACTION of the amount of responsibilities or chores that I had when I was their age. The two older ones will be 17 in July and the youngest just turned 15 today. When I was TEN, ELEVEN, TWELVE at the LATEST, I was making dinner, mopping the floor, helping my mother with laundry, cleaning the entire refrigerator, doing my hair, cleaning the whole bathroom, etc. Like for real?? Seriously?! How is it that my sisters do not know how to properly do laundry, fold, make dinner, mop the floor, etc.? And it is because they are always babied and given help. No, they need to figure it out on their own. Learn by doing! I’m not going to be here forever!

And now that I’ve let out some steam, I should say that I need to be here. With my mother gone, no one else is going to carry the weight. It stinks… but it was going to happen to one of us. I just thank God for the strength. And through all the anger and frustration, I find joy in knowing that one day, this will all be for something! When I have a house of my own or a roommate or a husband or a family, I will easily be able to keep the house in order! I will be able to tolerate nonsense! I will be able to know how to handle any problem that happens in the house! (For the most part anyway.) I saw a picture today that read, “Keep going. Each step may get harder, but don’t stop. The view at the top is beautiful.” Yepp! When I cannot STAND one more second in this house or when I cannot STAND the unfairness that is happening, I know that when it is all over, it will all be worth it because it will be something beautiful! I will make a happy home! 🙂 Yay God! Haha, have to give all the glory to Him. Yesterday, today, and forever. Amen.

Oh, and…

HAPPY RESURRECTIONAL SUNDAY!!!!!!!

😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

CHRIST IS KING!!!!!!! CRISTO ES EL REY!!!!!!!

JESUS LIVES!!!!!! JESÚS VIVE!!!!!!

AMEN!!!!!! AMÉN!!!!!!

I Can’t Help It

Sitting here watching television with my sister… I can’t help it. I can’t wait for my life to unveil. “Veil” being the keyword. I know everything is unraveling, slowly but surely, but I can’t help but look way into the future. And it also makes me wonder (if you haven’t guessed, I am talking about marriage), how could anyone ever abuse their spouse? In whatever way… To mistreat their marriage? I just… I don’t understand. I mean, I get that not every marriage works out. I get that sometimes people realize that they were wrong. I get that not everyone truly knows who they marry. I get that things happen… but, I don’t know. It’s probably just my single 19 year-old ignorant view of it all but I feel that marriage is one of the greatest gifts in the world. It is not to be abused or misused or taken advantage of. If God blesses you with someone who loves you enough to marry you (and let’s hope that is the reason the person is marrying you) then how could you not do everything you do to cherish, love, and hold on to that person and your marriage?

Who knows… haven’t gotten there yet.

Sudden Awareness – Short & Sweet

For a while now, I’ve been preparing myself for marriage. Sometimes it is all I think about and I get so excited at the thought! I think of sweet things to do for my future husband and how to decorate the house and what my wedding dress will look like and what songs will be played at the wedding… it’s a mess. But recently, I’ve realized that my priorities are so messed up. Beyond messed up. I am no one’s wife. And I won’t be until God says that the time is right. I need to focus on who I am and my walk with God. I need to focus on being the best daughter I can be before becoming the best wife I will one day be. I need to concentrate on God’s will for my life right now rather than being focused on what may or may not happen months and years in the future.

But it’s so easy for anyone to get distracted. I mean, marriage is the most exciting thing in the world to me. Nothing at all could be more of a blessing (other than to have a child or children, but that usually comes with marriage). So focusing on finding that person or “stumbling upon” him or her could effortlessly be an everyday thing: “Church tomorrow! Gotta look good… I may meet my husband at the altar.” “I need to do my hair before I go around the corner to the store… ‘You meet a man in an aisle and he’ll later walk you down one!'” “Girl, I need to get my feet done… Can’t meet my husband with last week’s nail polish!” I made those up… but I would not be surprised if they have been said before. 😛 But anyway, how can someone focus on the what seems to be boring ol’ right now when the oh so amazing future looks so much more exciting? I don’t know… it’s easier than it seems.

Gender Roles

I feel like this page is evolving… I haven’t had the need to post any releases lately (as in since… whenever the last time was that I posted one) but we’ll see where this goes!

So in one of my English classes, we read a play and have to do a context research assignment on the early 1900s. We all got to choose our topics and I chose “women.” Pretty huge, so I split it up into three different subtopics: Women’s roles, the view of women, and domestic violence.

Women’s roles in the early 1900s were what they still are now: Keeping the house, caring for children, and (contrary to today) staying at home (if the woman was single or if her husband was not making enough money).

The view of women was… I can’t even think of a word. Incompetent, to say the least. Men didn’t need women, women were seen to have simple minds and needed men!

Domestic violence, I’ve come to the conclusion, didn’t exist. If your husband hit you, he hit you.

Now, here’s my take on gender roles (women specifically), regardless of the year. Women should keep the house together and care for the children, naturally. But I mean she needs to like DO IT do it. When I am blessed with my man of God and a fabulous marriage, oh my goodness… It will be just… ah! Haha. When my husband comes home, there is going to be dinner (or lunch) waiting for him, always. When he wakes up in the morning, he will have breakfast ready, always, regardless of the time I have to be somewhere. The house will always be kept clean. So clean, dirt and dust will look at it and won’t even want to mess it up! A woman should always keep the house (and children, if there are any) together and make it a haven for her man.

I’ve been viewed as a lowly woman before, so I’m not sure how to take my own personal view of how I’d like my future husband to see me, or how any husband should see his wife for that matter. I know that he should respect the fact that she indeed is the weaker vessel, even if she does not want to admit it. He should care for her, remember that she is delicate, and treat her with complete delicacy. I will say, though it may rage a person or two, that when a woman gets out of line, she should be reminded of her position in the marriage. I can’t say what that reminder should be (simply because I do not know), but the woman should never try to be the man. It just doesn’t work that way.

Domestic violence. Hmm… I guess this goes into the woman being reminded of her position. But obviously, this is to an extreme… I don’t know. I mean, if you’ve read my older posts, you know that I’ve been abused but it seemed… necessary? I don’t know, I don’t want to sound crazy but it just seems like that’s how it is. Now, in NO way am I condoning this or saying that it is “essential” for marriage or to keep the woman in her place. Not at all. I’m just saying, that’s what I’m used to. I feel like sometimes it’s just inevitable. Maybe? I don’t know. Maybe one day I’ll see different.

So those are my opinions! 🙂